For some reason, I wish to explain a few things….

In the world of the freakchylde, there is one major rule and one major rule alone….Don’t lie to me. There’s a reason for it, especially if you’re lucky enough to be allowed into the the inner walls of my being. I really, really don’t like it and I consider it a massive breach of trust, which is usually never regained. Now, I can take the need for someone to lie, make themselves look bad, in order to protect someone else that doesn’t deserve the pain, yet. That’s dealable and I do it myself (worked in corp america, also the reason I no longer work in corp america). However, if you lie, solely for your own gain, you screw yourself. And you screw yourself even worse when you naively try to logically explain it away through the idea that you’re protecting someone else. You’re not. You’re protecting your own ass, and for that you deserve to roast in the blue flames. Along those lines is also the concept of talking out of your mouth, instead of both ends of your digestive tract. What does this mean? If you’re going to say that you’re going to do something, say….to change the habit/s in your life, make an effort to do it. Even if you fail, you’ve at least made the effort and not just made lip service. Don’t make promises that you don’t intend to keep. I consider that lying for your own protection and talking out of your ass. Wrong choice. And when you prove me right, after asking my advice and disregarding it like I never gave it, and I tell you I was right…don’t go trying to pawn yourself off as being innocent. You’re not. I told you and you ignored me. Also, when you know what my reaction is going to be, don’t tell me not to react in that way. My reaction is not going to change, regardless of what you say. You knew what you were going to face and you chose to face it. Now deal with the fucking consequences, you created the situation.

I’ve contemplated a rhetorical theory my Therapist suggested: lower my expectations and I won’t be as depressed when they’re not met. Don’t harbour so much hope when I know what the reality will be. However, my question would be this: Is it really that much to ask, that those close to me actually have enough knowledge and respect for me, as their friend, that they can tell me the truth instead of lying? Is it that much to ask, for my friends to act as mature individuals who are grown-up, in regards to how they present themselves in their relationship to me? I give this to each and every one of my friends, is it that much to ask for it in return? Otherwise, grow up and don’t bitch when the expected reaction occurs. I’m not like everyone else. I have my limits and I don’t let people push them, especially when it comes to the special privileges I already grant to those who can count themselves amongst my kindred. In my world, family is just as easy to cast off as strangers. It might take more planning, but the strings cut the same way.

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  2. Re: My Humble Opinion

    Well, most of what I’ve said so far, is applicable to those that manage to get into the inner sactum of my life. This isn’t projected onto those who live outside that realm and aren’t privy to various parts of my life. Those people, I don’t care about. They can lie as they please and go their merry way, oblivious to the fact that they’ll never enter into close knowledge of me. It’s those who get there and know the rules and do the deeds (as in this case), and still expect the same level of trust. If they don’t give enough respect, they have no reason to expect the same level of respect. If they’re not mature enough to be at that point, then they shouldn’t have gone far enough to be allowed in. Know your limits, and be mature enough to know when you’re ready to extend those limits. Shakespeare: “To thine own self be true” aka: get to know yourself and be true to it.

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      1. I think I shall take “DORK” as a compliment, seeing as it was in CAPS lock. Freak knows me well enough to know that my way of dealing with her is through lightness, and is in no means a slight that this is indeed a serious situation she is involved in.

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      4. oh yeah, mister “wanna-be pornstar because my dick is too shriveled” knock the people who use references to explain their sympathy. ;P

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      5. Now, now, we must have sympathy even for those whose aspirations are to be as big as a name as Ron Jeremy. ::grins:: And no, I didn’t take offense to Amp..I *am* a nerd though..but one that looks good in skirts!

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  4. just a curiosity – but – how did someone who has issues with being honest sneak into your inner sanctum to begin with? Didn’t your warning bells go off?

    this is NOT an excuse for their behavior – however – if it had happened to me, I might be doing some serious self-evaluation of how I let it happen, if only to make sure it didn’t happen again :/

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    1. Easy, this person started off having much in common with me, my dealings with said person were mostly in our local group of friends and one-on-one. The situations that brought it to this end didn’t come up until much later in the friendship. And for most of the people that make it to the inner sanctum, I’ll give them a chance (depending on the situation) to redeem themselves. Once they squander that chance and then repeat it, they get a big fat gothy platform boot up their ass.

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      1. yeah, I hear ya. But I’ve found that most people, usually lie because they feel if they told you the truth, you would think less of them. They don’t like to dissapoint people, and oddly enough, they think they have to lie to keep from doing that.

        It does sound odd, until you consider that honesty really is not normally valued in this society. We (as a society) much prefer pretty lies, than we do the truth.

        A quick look at recent elections in California should bear that out.

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      2. yeah, I hear ya. But I’ve found that most people, usually lie because they feel if they told you the truth, you would think less of them. They don’t like to dissapoint people, and oddly enough, they think they have to lie to keep from doing that.

        that i agree with, which is why i usually take the first one, depending on situation, with a grain of salt, as well as those from people who are just the mundanes in my world. They haven’t gotten the rapport that would result in me expecting honesty from them.

        It does sound odd, until you consider that honesty really is not normally valued in this society. We (as a society) much prefer pretty lies, than we do the truth.

        politics is so inundated in our society now, that we expect the lies and we don’t care about it. main reason why i ditched my desires to run for office. i’d go nuts. anyway, you’re very right. lying is valued more than honesty in our society, though, i’m starting to wonder if that’s changing (recent corp scandals, wall street stuff, etc) because of the reaction to the various incidences and the outrage that’s going on (the war?). so, *fingers crossed*.

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      4. hahahahahaha, and here i thought i was a horrible cynic. though, the fact i have hope is what makes me hopelessly depressed and misanthropic.

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