Freakchylde's

Last night, had a wonderful night in….and realized something odd about the cat stuff my mum got me for winter holiday. My cat mug, has you drinking out of the cat’s ass. My cat teapot has the bottom half of the cat as the mug and the top as the teapot. My salt/pepper shakers have the salt in the head and the pepper in the body. Odd.

We watched an anime called Castle in the Sky, and it was interesting. Especially the resulting center of the castle being a giant tree with massive roots. There was also the explaination by the young girl about having to learn destructive spells so that the healing spells would have power. It’s an interesting idea that goes along with the adage, “In order to know love, you have to know hate, and vice versa.” In order for anything to have power, something on the flip-side has to be known.

I’ve been watching the CNN special on infidelity. I’m finding a common thread in their discussions about infidelity and the emails/expressed feelings to lovers about why the people who strayed, did. Those that were cheating were missing something. They didn’t first express that missing feeling to their partners to find out what compromise might be met to alleviate it. I was also saddened that alternative relationships weren’t discussed. Of course, that would result in no cheating and be off topic. However, they never mentioned the concept of love being felt for these “others” was not just some passing infatuation. Granted, I will give that option as that the people were looking to fill the pieces that were missing in their primary relationship. It is sad, to me, that this is happening due to lack of honesty within the individual and within the primary relationship. This trend, is showing the shift within the paradigm of marriage. To me, it displays the need to develop the basis of what the relationship is to be, and work towards that as a couple. One of the examples, the male began travelling most days of the week with no regard to his wife, outside of a few phone calls. They quickly settled into the “married” life and she got bored with it. Relationships are work. They are like buildings, you build a strong foundation, the style of building you want, then maintain it. If you can’t maintain it, it starts to crumble and eventually caves in. To think that it will maintain itself, is naive, and it doesn’t matter how many people are involved in the relationship. It can be monogamous, polyfidelitous, ect. And because one partner does not direct his/her affections towards just the spouse, does not mean that s/he doesn’t love that person. Love is an interesting emotion, it is boundless and bountiful. To think that it could be contained would be to deny its true value.