Stupid customer story of the day:
Guy walks in (nastiest mouth, deaf people notice these things), he’s introduced himself as very extroverted. Conversing with everyone possible, in the loudest possible way, about everything. After spending time in boots, comes up to pay for stuff and notices my necklace. Looks at it very hard and says, “That looks familiar, I think I’ve seen it when I was overseas. What’s it called?” My answer, “Well, it’s a triskele and it’s fairly common overseas, specifically Europe.” His reply, “Well, I didn’t see it in Europe, I saw it in Asia.” Me, “Well, the Celts did make it all the way to Asia.” Him, “Celts? That sounds Irish.” Me, “Well, actually, it’s the other way around.” Him, “What?” Me, “It’s the other way around, the Irish were a Celtic culture.” Him, “No they weren’t, I’m Irish and the Celts were Irish.” Me, “No, sir, you’re wrong, it’s the other way around.” Leaves him standing there dumbfounded.
That was my day in a nutshell. Imagine that 20 times over with a different conversation. Holidays bring out the stupid, they store it up all year and unleash it between Halloween and Christmas.
In other realms, this is a question I always end up asking myself, and I expect people to answer this….
Is there something about me that just puts people off? I’ve noticed several instances, lately, when I meet people that I think would make great friends, I seem to run them off in less than 2 hours. Or, in the case of one friend, over the course of a year. It’s not like I’m actively pursuing them the way I would someone I’m interested in, romantically, but I’ll put out the flag that I’m interested and watch them bolt. Seriously, I don’t get this. I would really love to meet new people and gain some new friends, but I seem to be doing something wrong. Most of the people who know me, alread,y say they don’t see anything wrong, and I never hear from these people again, to find out what got them doing the 100 yard dash in the other direction. Seriously, I’m not that odd, am I?
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Actual avoidence? Or are they just not having time or some such?
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I pass one off as too busy, all the time. However, he seems to make time for others. As my best friend says, “You always make time for things you want to make time for.”
His cell got cancelled, he’s got a new one and never bothered with giving me the number. I take that as a slight sign. The other one, I gave my number to and asked that he call me, he never did. Though, I can assume he was frightened off by a friend that was there that night, with: “She’s got a bf with a tank.” Even though I was only seeking a friendship.
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Any reason to thing that it was you or the tank that scared him, rather than the existence of the boyfriend? If what he’s looking for is romance, he won’t have much time for anyone that’s not available in a romantic capacity, regardless of your desire for friendship…
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Well, given my previous meeting with him (before he left for Iraq), I found him quite interesting, friendship potential with potential for more. When it comes to finding a potential OSO, I prefer to find the friendship first (the friend who possibly did the scaring doesn’t know about the poly angle) and move from there, because my Scotsman and I are pretty quiet about our orientation in that realm. I like to feel people out first (plenty of history to back that lesson up). And I do think it’s the potential of having the bf that scared him off, I now can’t find out whether he’d have potential interest otherwise because of that factor (assumption of monogamy).
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And I do think it’s the potential of having the bf that scared him
off, I now can’t find out whether he’d have potential interest otherwise
because of that factor (assumption of monogamy).
That part’s a down-side, yes. It is, however, not something that’s easy
to do anything about. His loss, neh? (:
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yeah, but it still leaves me wondering wtf is wrong with me when people bolt. 🙂
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Only until you build up a skin of arrogance thick enough to remember that
it’s *other people* that have the problems. (:
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you’re not odd, but I have noticed a tendency to take things too seriously, too soon. Might just try having fun – and not expecting too much? Just be your lovely self, and you’ll attract all the right ones naturally.
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true, and as iridnan pointed out, i do come off as pretty intense. which is something i’ve been trying to work on. the flip side, is now i also seem to come off as lackadaisical and not interested. haven’t quite found the middleground. there are a few people, recently, that i’ve become friends with and they didn’t see anything wrong. they were the ones i asked first. i don’t know, when i first meet people, i try to show interest in them and if i like hanging out with them one time, i let them know i’m interested in a second time, invite them out with other friends (to make sure it’s not mistaken for a date) and off they go. granted, sometimes it doesn’t even get to that point. of course, with guys, i’ve noticed that they tend to run when they find out i’ve got a bf. not that i hide that fact, but i don’t come out and flat out admit it (that’s too awkward). i can see that if they’re looking for a partner, but it’s beyond me why friendship is always ruled out.
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I belong to this community: .. you might like it and you won’t feel like you’re the only one! 🙂
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Celts are Irish? I nearly fell off my chair laughing about that. Almost as bad as a friend of mine telling me I wasn’t dancing around the fire right.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with you. You might come off as intense to some people, and they go into fight or flight pattern though.
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Strictly speaking, what we know of as Celtic Culture today (Scotland, Ireland, Wales, Man, Brittany and Cornwall) is based on migrations from Ireland to those areas. At least according to a number of text I’ve read. However, there is the larger structure of Celtic peoples from Iberia to northern Greece, to Austria/Germany (Hallstadt graves) and back up to Ireland that are united in similar language and culture. However those regions aren’t really celtic any more as other racial/cultural groups moved through them and have subsumed what was once Celtic in those peoples.
In a Modern Sense Celtic means Scots, Irish, Welsh, Breton, Cornish or Manx. In a more ancient sense it can mean Gallic, British, Keltiberian, Galatian, etc.
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And the theory of those in Ireland, was a small migration from Iberia, around England, into Ireland. Historically speaking, the Celtic culture was very much alive and well on the mainland in the Gaulish areas. Now, I can accept that people will consider those you listed as the Celtic lands, however, when it comes to historical areas, Saxony, France, and those areas up to the Halstadtt realms were Celtic and very rich into the culture and considered Celtic. Which brings into the defining factor. The celtic languages only exist in the lands you listed, presently, however, language was one of the many defining factors of that society, most revolving around the belief structures, jewelry, artwork, and weaponry, which was imported from the mainland. But to say that the Celts were Irish is only vaguely true. The Irish were Celts, in a general sense, but not all Celts were Irish. So to say that the Celts were Irish would be false, which I was correcting (even though I really didn’t feel like carrying on the conversation with this guy). Yes, there would have been more polite means of doing it, but I was also busy with other people.
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Hi. My name is Kim, and I wandered over here from the Polyamory group. I find you interesting, and what you said about the friend thing is EXACTLY how my husband and I feel. We are good friends to people (until they do something really bad, like get drunk and forget that they took the carpet cleaner that we rented somewhere, then called us so we had five hours of thinking we were now $1,700.00 more in debt…when they call later with an “Oh YEAH….” and no appologie…..but I digress), and it seems like people just don’t want to put in the effort in this college town we live in, or maybe it’s because we are pretty serious ourselves.
Anyway I understand (or at least I think I do) how you feel. 🙂
May I add you to my friend’s list?
Either way have a great day! 🙂
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yes, you may 🙂 you have a good post-turkey weekend!
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